It resonated with me as it has many others, so I cruised on over to his blog and found the article Self Editing is a Beautiful Thing. (Please check it out.)
Reading it instantly reminded me of the folks with whom I have crossed paths in my life who share this pride in their brutality. (Like I wanted to be reminded of them. Thanks Bob) ‘
Anyway,all joking aside as I was thinking about these “special” people in my life it dawned on me that brutal honesty was a contradiction in terms.
A quick check on “The Google” and I found these definitions.
- Brutal – Savage; cruel; inhumane, crude; coarse Synonyms – ferocious, brutish, barbarous cruel
- Honest – Upright and fair. Sincere, Freedom from deceit or fraud. Synonyms – integrity, probity, rectitude
As you can see, you can be honest and you can be brutal, but you cannot be both at the same time. A person who takes “pride in their bluntness is either proving that they are immature or proving that they are too lazy to learn to communicate with some tact and diplomacy.
As my friend and mentor, John Maxwell says. “Sometime wisdom comes with age. Sometimes the age comes alone.”
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