Sometimes people ask me why I am passionate about servant leadership and I usually reply that my first leader was my dad and I have not since had a better example of a leader who is a servant first and leader second.
I have two brothers who are outstanding fathers and anything we know about being a good father, we owe to our dad, Lynn Vanover. Although he is a wonderful pastor and minister, he never preached to us on how to live our lives. He simply lived a good example each and every day.
I am sure I have fallen short of his example many times, but I hope that a my children and the people who I meet see just a little of him in me.
He posted this on our Facebook wall for father’s day and I wanted to share it.
A FATHERS PRAYER, in honor of my three sons, Phillip, Mark and David.
Build me a son O Lord, who will be strong enough to know when he is weak, and brave enough to face himself when he is afraid; One who will be proud and unbending in honest defeat, and humble and gentle in victory. Build me a son whose wishbone will not be where his backbone should be; a son who will know thee, and to know himself is the foundation stone of knowledge.
Lead him, I pray, not in path of ease and comfort, but under the stress and spur of difficulties and challenge. Here let him learn to stand up in the storm; here let him learn compassion for those who fail.
Build me a son whose heart will be clear, whose goal will be high; a son who will master himself before he seeks to master others. One will learn to laugh, yet never forget how to weep; one who will reach into the future, yet never forget the past.
And after all these things are his, add, I pray, enough of a sense of humor, so he will always be serious, yet never take himself too seriously, Give him humility, so he may always remember the simplicity of true greatness, the open mind of true wisdom, the meekness of true strength.
THEN I, HIS FATHER, WILL DARE TO WHISPER, I have not lived in vain.
Douglass Mac Arthur